Letters & Opinion
Kinky as kinky could be
The Pointer
rking163@uwsp.edu
Everybody is kinky.
This is my opinion as a sexually active male, and since this is my column,
I’m allowed to state my opinions for the world to read – but come to think of it, sex advice columnists have been stating this fact for years, and have been writing about socially-taboo, kinky sexual acts for as long as I can remember.
I am going to forgo pointing to the scientific studies that have been conducted over long periods of time and involving many thousands of people. Instead I will refer to my own sex life and the sex lives of some of my closest friends. No, you do not get to read about all of the details. However, I don’t mind sharing with you some of the things my friends and I have encountered throughout our many years of dating men/women who have enthusiastically suggested some pretty outrageous things.
The word “kink” is a very subjective word. What I consider kink, Kevin (random name) might regard as foreplay. Oftentimes when you talk to someone about what he/she likes to do in bed, those “bizarre” things they enjoy might not really be considered kinky. For example, someone once told me that he liked feet, spanking and wearing women’s undergarments; but when another person stated that they liked armpits, bondage, shaved pubic areas and food-sex, the first guy was so disgusted that he called him an “armpit sniffin,’ tie-me-down-and-shave-me, food-wasting, freaky S.O.B.”
Needless to say I would not mark either of these guys down as a “yes” on my speed-dating card. Not because they were not attractive and successful men, but just for the fact that I do not think that I would enjoy any of that.
What does this mean? Generally, what is considered “kinky” will change over time. Think about it; there was a time when oral sex was considered to be as kinky as kinky could be. But today, it is a common sex practice that many people enjoy on a regular basis. At the same time, there are kinks that even the kinkiest of people just can’t wrap their perverted minds around.
So, the next time that you and your newly-found other half are getting all hot and bothered and they ask you to do something that you consider to be taboo or kinky, you might want to realize that this one “kinky sex act” could possibly end up being a social norm.
P.S. If you are going to be sexually active, remember: no glove, no love.
